Going down on someone, eating a woman out, licking out, eating pussy. Ultimately, there are so many ways to describe this highly delectable form of oral sex. And when it comes down to it (pun intended), there are tons of ways to approach cunnilingus. For many who have vaginas, it can be even more intense and enjoyable than being penetrated with a cock or a dildo alone.
So, no matter if you are simply interested in upping your pussy-eating game or are bi-curious and want to understand the mechanics of fucking another woman with your mouth, here are some tips to follow that will make your partner scream.
A Step-By-Step Pussy Eating Guide
If you’re looking to level up your oral sex game, first remember that every woman’s pussy is unique. What one person enjoys might be different when compared to someone else (or even what you want when your partner goes down on you).
Therefore, communication is key. Also, it’s important to pay attention to body language and develop the skill of simultaneously using your hands and mouth.
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How to Eat a Woman Out
Cunnilingus focuses on stimulating the clit. When combined with a finger or a sex toy like a vibrating bullet, it can deliver intense orgasms.
Here are some steps to follow when taking the correct approach to pussy eating:
01
Kiss your way down
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You want to build the tension and eroticism of the moment. Show the woman that you are with that this is all about her. All the focus is on her body and her pleasure.
Start on their mouth or their neck and leave a trail of kisses across their breasts and nipples down to their belly. Do this before going anywhere near their pussy. Stimulate their body and build arousal and tension.
Eye contact can also be hot here, depending on your relationship with your partner. If this is a one-night or first-time hookup, it could be a turn-off. However, if it’s someone you have a relationship with, it could be viewed as erotically intimate.
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Focus on their inner thighs
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Teasing and building anticipation before your mouth and tongue go anywhere near her clit is hot. So, spend some experimenting with some sensual kisses around her inner thighs.
Perhaps, lightly caress the outer edges of her clit with your fingers, making her wet and getting her to beg for more.
03
Always pay attention to the clit
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We cannot stress this enough, the clit is super sensitive (it actually has more nerve endings than a dick!). Stimulating it is vital to eating pussy and pleasuring a woman. The clit is also the source of orgasms for any person with a vagina.
When you know your partner is fully aroused by the oral play she has received on other parts of her body, start tracing your tongue around the outside of the clit. If you aren’t sure where to find the clit, ask her. An FYI? The clit can be found on the “lips” of the vagina, and it feels a lot like a bean.
Use the flat part of your tongue over the clit and labia as this provides for deeper and broader stimulation, and if your partner wants something more intense, use one hand to gently lift the hood of the clit to give more direct pleasure.
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Stimulate their whole pussy
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Yes, the clit is sensitive, but the majority of the pussy is actually inside the labia and around the vag—so you need to pay attention to all of it.
Mix it up. As you focus the majority of your attention on the clit externally, also lick, kiss, suck, and tease the other parts. Try using your tongue to write out each letter of the alphabet. Increase the pressure and speed if her body indicates she enjoys the sensation. Insert a finger to stimulate the inside of her pussy—hell, try two or three fingers if she likes it. Try stroking the front wall of her vagina, curling your fingers up to hit her G-spot instead of just thrusting away.
You can also (again, if she’s down for this) pay some attention to her ass, either with your mouth or with a finger or toy. That area is another part of her body that has thousands of nerve endings—and rimming can make her cum hard (however, be sure to check out our advice on how to do anal play the right way before you go down that route).
Layla, 27, says that some of her best orgasms come from when her boyfriend goes down on her.
“He likes to wake me up by going down on me in the morning. He spreads my legs while I am sleeping and positions his head right in between my legs, bringing me out of sleep with his face and tongue deep in my pussy. Once I’m fully conscious, he ups the pressure and picks up the speed, pushing his fingers into me. I can’t tell you how many times he has woken me up this way—with a clit orgasm.”
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Ask if she likes it
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It’s perfectly fine to ask her for feedback while you’re fucking her with your mouth. Find out what she’s enjoying, if she likes the pressure or speed, or if she wants something different. She might also convey what she finds hot through body language or how she moves her pussy while your mouth is on her.
If she starts to pull your hair, that’s a good sign. Keep doing whatever you’re doing because, holy hell, it’s working.
Eat Pussy and Make Her Cum
Your end goal might be to have her cum in your mouth—but it might not happen. However, it might be excellent foreplay that leads to other sorts of fucking and sex play.
If she does cum while you’re eating her out, this is where it’s super important to pay attention to her body language. Since everyone is different, she might be overly sensitive after she orgasms and pulls away. Or, on the flipside, she might push into your mouth or fingers, enjoying the pressure and stimulation as she climaxes.
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You don’t have to put pressure on yourself or her when eating her pussy—and every experience is different and can end with a different outcome.
Oral sex is intensely pleasurable, both to the giver and the receiver. Focus on the connection and let her lay back and enjoy herself. Practice your clit licking skills, find out what she likes, play around with technique, and always pay attention to her verbal and physical cues—great lovers are great listeners.
