There’s no doubt that side hustles have become popular in recent years—and the gig economy has seen the rise of cash-making opportunities that range from dropping off someone’s fast food order on their porch to selling feet pics on OnlyFans. At the same time, there is also a field of opportunity that doesn’t get as much attention as it deserves—and that is the world of sugar dating and, specifically, becoming a sugar baby.
In this article, we’re going to offer a step-by-step guide on how to approach the sugar baby lifestyle—and find a sugar daddy or sugar momma to take care of you.
What is a Sugar Baby?
First things first, know that a sugar baby is typically someone who finds and forms a mutually agreed-upon relationship with a person of any gender… usually, someone who is able to provide financial support, gifts, and other fun perks in exchange for companionship. This may or may not include sex—that simply depends on the agreement that is reached between the partners in this sort of relationship.
As a point of reference, there have been many sugar babies who have reached considerable fame over the years… with Anna Nicole Smith probably taking GOAT status in the category.
Anna Nicole Smith and Hugh Hefner in “Anna Nicole Smith: You Don’t Know Me” (Netflix) via Salon
Identify What You Want
Just like with any relationship, you need to understand what you want to get out of the arrangement. This could be a range of things, including financial support, gifts, or lifestyle experiences such as exotic travel (FYI, sugar baby action while traveling is sometimes called “yachting”).
At the same time, you also must know what risks you’re willing to take—consider emotional involvement, privacy concerns, control issues, and sexual proclivities. There is also the reality that you might not be able to date other people if you agree to a sugar lifestyle where someone else is taking care of you.
Entering the Sugar Bowl
Once you decide what you’re looking for as a sugar baby, then it’s time to enter the sugar dating scene, which is easiest to do by joining an online platform like Ashley Madison, AdultFriendFinder, OurSecret, Secret Benefits, or SugarDaddy.com. It’s possible to connect with men or women on these sites—but know that the majority of sugar relationships do cater to connecting aspiring sugar babies with generous daddies.
Photo: Tima Miroshnichenko via Pexels
Negotiation is Necessary
With a sugar relationship, you absolutely must be upfront about your expectations and what you’re willing to offer in return. For instance, if you are looking for a sugar mommy or sugar daddy to fund a lavish lifestyle and take you on first-class vacations to Paris, then you need to be honest about what you’re willing to do in order to earn your spot on a private jet.
Open to fucking? State your terms. Simply want to be arm candy and keep it out of the bedroom? That’s fine, too. Realize, though, that the other person has the ability to say no. After all, if they’re willing to spring for a Birkin bag and keep you in the latest pair of Louboutins, then they also might want to shove their dick up your ass. In a sugar relationship, everything is fair trade.
Make Sure You Are Safe
Ultimately, there’s no shame in wanting to enter the sugar dating scene. However, just remember to always put your safety first… especially if you are looking to connect with a benefactor online.
Make sure you verify the identity of the potential sugar daddy/mommy prior to meeting in person—and always initially meet in a public place. What’s more, is that we would recommend arranging your own transportation to and from the meetup and also telling a friend or family member where you’re going… ensuring they also have details on who you’re meeting.
Finally, trust your instincts—if something feels off or uncomfortable, remove yourself from the situation. Remember, the promise of a designer handbag or a luxury trip is not worth compromising your safety… ever.
Photo: cottonbro studio via Pexels
A Final Note
One last thing to think about, make sure you adhere to the laws… and realize that it is totally possible (especially if you are accepting cash for sex, for instance) that a sugar relationship does have the potential to be considered a form of sex work. Therefore, approach any situation with caution and realize there is a risk.
Sugar dating can be a hell of a good time—and a sugar baby has the potential to hold immense power. We simply encourage you to wield that power wisely, confidently, and safely.
