There’s never any harm in reaching for the drawer on your bedside table and grabbing a vibrator to perform a little self-love.
But have you ever wondered if your vibrator could serve a purpose when you’re in bed with your boyfriend?
And is there a way to prevent your lover from feeling left out when using the toy during sex? After all, it’s only supposed to be used on your clit and puss, right?
Wrong!
Spice things up with a bit of role reversal—and use your vibrator on them. Remember, vibrators are not specifically made for women, and they can enhance pleasure for guys, gays, and theys, too!
Is It Normal to Use Sex Toys on Your Boyfriend?
Provided they consent to it, of course, it is!
Vibrators can be used on a man in several different and interesting ways, and the sexy time doesn’t even have to be kept to intimate areas alone. After all, the touch of a vibrator can feel good on many body parts and erogenous zones.
Since vibrators are designed to elevate feelings of arousal, you can introduce one during foreplay or while fucking.
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Ways to Use a Vibrator on Your Boyfriend
We all have preconceived notions on how to use our sex toys—and admittedly, it’s easy to get into the habit of using them the same way all of the time.
Here are some ideas on how to use your vibrator on the man or men (and non-binary folks) in your life:
01
Give Them a Full Body Massage
It’s easy to automatically associate a vibrator with penetration, but we feel like that’s almost too limiting. A vibrator is great to use during foreplay and when giving your partner an erotic massage. And if this sounds fun to you, here is a list of male erogenous zones:
- Chest
- Inner Thighs
- Behind the Knees
- Armpits
- Wrists
- Ears
- Neck
- Prostate
To find out where your partner likes being touched the most, start by using your hands and explore what they respond to. Remember, everyone is different, so while you like having one area of your body touched, your partner might have a different response.
Once you discover what they like, then introduce your vibrator, which will deliver a sensation that goes beyond the skin’s surface.
And don’t rush it. Delightfully drag it out and build some mouthwatering sexual tension.
02
Get Wet
If you have a waterproof vibrator, what better place to use it than in the bath or shower? Having some one-on-one time in a smaller space is tantalizing and intimate.
Try taking turns using your vibrator externally on each other… but just remember, if it does lead to penetration on either one of you, make sure you clean the toy before using it in the other person’s ass or vagina. No one wants to walk away from a sexy, wet experience with a bacterial infection.
Another perk of using a vibrator in this way is that the sound of running water (or even using it while submerged in the tub) can drown out the buzzing of the vibrator, which some guys might find problematic if they are just getting introduced to this type of pleasure.
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03
Take Oral Sex to the Next Level
If he consents, we recommend introducing your vibrator when you’re going down on him. Use it specifically on the area between his cock and ass, which is called the perineum. This is a sensitive spot that is absolutely loaded with nerve endings. When the perineum is stimulated externally, it can even reach the male G-spot (the prostate), and result in a full-body orgasm—and this is known to be more pleasurable than an orgasm that is achieved using the penis alone.
04
Get More Creative with Your Hand Jobs
Another idea is to use your vibrator when you are jerking them off. Like what we described with a blow job, stimulate the perineum with the vibrator while you use your other hand and pay attention to the penis head and shaft.
Additionally, some men get very hard and aroused when their balls are stimulated. If your guy is one of those individuals, use your vibrator against the skin of his scrotum and create new sensations.
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05
And Yes, You Can Also Put It Up Their Ass
Now, as with any type of ass play, we recommend preparing in advance (for instance, putting down a sheet or a towel—yes, anal sex has the potential to be messy), easing into it, and establishing safe words, and checking in as you go. Also, lots of lube—as in, if you believe you have enough, add more.
Talk to your guy about pegging, which is a form of kink–and very common in all communities, regardless of sexuality or gender.
Ass play can feel great for a man, and massaging their prostate with your vibrator can be deeply satisfying, leading to full-body orgasms that we mentioned earlier.
A good rule of thumb to follow if your partner is down for anal penetration: start with the tissue around their ass first, which is full of nerve endings and very sensitive to arousal. Play around with different vibration patterns and intensities. Then, if they are enjoying that, move into slight penetration. Insert the tip and keep it in that position for a few minutes. This can help their asshole relax before you try deeper penetration.
Super important: make sure whatever toy or vibrator you’re using in this situation is made for ass play. Ensure it has an end that can be held securely so it can also be removed safely. At the end of the day, no one wants to end up in the ER.
Explore New Types of Sex with Your Boyfriend
Vibrators are fun to play with—whether you are by yourself or with others. Just realize that they aren’t only for the enjoyment of women. There is so much opportunity for men to get off when using a vibrator.
Talk about it with your partner and make your next sexy session truly buzzworthy!
