Ah, I remember the day vividly. A sex toy seller kicked off my girlfriend’s bachelorette party with a demonstration, selling her wares. I was in my early 20s, and truth be told, I didn’t own a single sex toy. When it came to self-love, I was simply good at using my hands. I had no idea what to look for when it came to the best sex toys.
So, I was intrigued as a I stepped into the world of sex toys—all of the colors and textures and flavors… it was akin to walking into a candy store. Everything looked so exciting, and I even recognized the Cadillac of sex toys at that point in time, made famous by Charlotte on Sex and the City. The rabbit! I was starstruck!
However, even with guidance from some of my friends and the sex toy party lady, I wasn’t sure exactly where to start, and I felt overwhelmed(and let’s face it, sex toys aren’t cheap either!).
Nowadays, I feel pretty well-versed in the types of toys I like. And I’m here to get you acclimated if you’re a beginner. I want to make your journey into pleasure (whether you’re flying solo or playing with a partner) as delightful and sexy as possible.
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Waterproof Bullet Vibrators: They Pack a Punch!
The waterproof bullet vibrator is one of my favorites—so much so that I’ve probably worn out about a dozen of them over the years. This toy is the finition of a trusty sidekick—small, discreet, and ready to please. It’s perfect for externally stimulating your clit, which makes it a great introduction to vibrators. Plus, the bullet’s compact size and simple design make it non-intimidating. And you can easily slip a bullet into your bedside table, in a piece of luggage, or in your purse.
Bullet vibrators are incredibly versatile and can be used on erogenous zones, including your nipples, clit, and anywhere that feels good to you. Also, they’re excellent for couples’ play, including when you’re having sex. The bullet is easily removed from any hole by way of a cord, which is attached to the remote control. When my husband and I have sex, we both find pleasure in inserting the bullet into my vagina before he enters me. Intense orgasms are sure to follow.
Bullet Vibrator Waterproof via Amazon
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Classic Vibrators: The OG
Any woman’s bedside table should always hold a classic vibrator–also known as a personal massager. The vibrator is wand-like in nature, handheld, and meant to resemble a penis. Most come with multiple vibration/pulsation settings and can be used externally on the clit or inserted into your pussy or ass (word to the wise, never transfer between any of your holes without cleaning your vibtrator thoroughly with a cleanser designed for sex toys!).
Now, these babies are all-encompassing and can range in price from under ten bucks up into the hundreds. And they also can be basic in their design, length, as well as their girth—or they can have all of the bells and whistles.
If you’re just getting started and aren’t sure what you are comfortable with, I would recommend this slim, straightforward model by CalExotics. It’s only six inches in length, so it’s nothing too scary, and it will also cost you under $20—making the ticket to entry sticker shock-free. On top of that, it’s waterproof and has seven powerful vibration, pulsation, and escalation settings, which can prove to be a gateway to exploring what you enjoy most and what gets you off.
CalExotics Classic Vibrator via Amazon
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Cock Rings: Power Up Your Playtime
If you’re partnered or having sex with someone who has a penis, it’s perfectly fine to think about beginner sex toys that also involve your lover. Cock rings are a great way to boost the sexy fun while enabling love-making to last longer. These rings are worn around the base of your partner’s dick (and sometimes around their balls, too). They restrict blood flow to create harder, longer-lasting erections. Many beginner-friendly cock rings come with a built-in vibrator, which will stimulate both of you during sex.
The vibrating element often rests against your clit and will also touch the area between your partner’s balls and ass, making this toy a favorite for partners looking to intensify their shared sexual experiences. They’re easy to use, and most models are adjustable to ensure comfort. Plus, it’s also possible to use cock rings for solo play. This one is my favorite—I bring it out regularly, both when I’m on my own and with my husband. In the former situation I use it externally on my clit as a vibrator. In the latter, hubs wears it.
Vibrating Cock Ring via Amazon
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No Rookie Mistakes: Don’t Forget the Lube
It’s not a sex toy, but lube is your bestie. Lubricant is an essential companion to any pleasure-seeking adventure, from beginner to expert level. A good quality lube can make all the difference in your experience, reducing friction and increasing comfort during sex play.
However, there are different types of lube to consider—and your choice here is important, especially when considering other types of toys and whether you have allergies to any substances.
Water-Based Lubes
These are versatile and safe for all toys, including silicone ones.
Silicone-Based Lubes
This variation of lube lasts longer and is great for water play. However, don’t use them with silicone toys as they can degrade the material.
Oil-Based Lubes
Last but not least, oil-based lubes are luxurious and moisturizing, but can weaken the effectiveness of a latex condom. Be very careful, you don’t want your play to end up with an STD or an unplanned pregnancy.
There are so many types of lube to choose from. But if you’re just getting started, I would recommend a tried-and-tested standard bearer—Astroglide. It’s a Subscribe and Save on Amazon–and I always have this in my bedside table.
Astroglide Water Based Lube via Amazon
Your Sexy (Toy) Adventure Awaits
Entering the world of sex toys is so much fun. And as you get started with some basics, keep an open mind. There are so many opportunities for an intense orgasm. Remember, the most important thing is to explore at your own pace and have fun along the way!
Whether you’re looking to love yourself or sharing your experience with a partner, these toys are sure to add some sexy sizzle to your bedroom. So go ahead, take the plunge—you might just find your new best friend.
