Blood courses through all of our veins, a red sea of saltwater and life. Yet the mere sight of blood can evoke fear, squeamishness, or cause someone to lose consciousness. To gaze into the crimson red puddles of iron rich plasma and platelets can remind us of our mortality. Our fragile and temporal existence.
Wrestling around with the concept of impermanence can be weighty material, and send you down an existential spiral of doom. After all, sex and death are still taboo topics that our culture struggles to talk openly about. But within the world of kink and fetish, we find individuals sculpting safe containers to explore taboo topics, societal fears, and discover more about ourselves and others.
Let’s dive in to what it might look like to explore a blood fetish within BDSM, which requires a sense of mindfulness and play.
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What is Blood Play?
Blood play is any type of kink that incorporates real or sometimes fake blood. Elements of blood play can be found in a wide array of fetishes overlapping with medical play, knife play, vampirism, vore and needle play.
A partner might utilize impact play–using a whip or cane–to draw blood. Or, there may be an aspect of ritual involved. Blood play, like any other type of kink, is as vast as our kinky imaginations. For instance, I once watched as two lovers gulped down shot glasses of each other’s blood!
Now, while blood play can make some folks queasy, it can be the ultimate turn on for others.
Let’s take a look at some of the different ways that folks like to engage in blood play and why:
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Bloody Bathtub of Needles
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I have played with needles many times. The precise nature of the sharp metal piercing through my flesh is intimate and sexy. I love the closeness of bodies, the surrender to another, allowing someone else in.
So exact, so sweet, and erotically charged.
Sometimes there was blood that would result as the needle entered or exited… but that wasn’t the point, at least not for me.
For others, however, the blood was the point.
I met with my good friend Nyxie and Delilah, one of their partners, to talk about their love of blood.
For Delilah, the very sight of blood turned her on, and Nyxie wanted nothing more than to give their blood to Delilah… to bleed for her. It was an act of submission, of service. When Delilah penetrated Nyxie’s flesh with needles it was to make them bleed.
Delilah would firmly pound her beautifully manicured hands upon Nyxie’s chest–the rhythmic beat of her percussive palms stimulating blood flow. Then, with a deliciously devious grin, Delilah would penetrate Nyxie’s chest with the needles. She curled her feline-like paws up and punched the needles–and I watched on as the erotic tension between the cat and the canary grew with intensity.
Delilah would then withdraw the needles, reveling in the release of blood, a cum shot of sorts, smearing it all over Nyxie’s body and face, into their mouth, kissing them, licking up their smeared red expulsion of desire. The two reveled in the euphoria of their experience, of their service, of their submission.
I sat in awe of their intimate act–both sacred and ritualistic. Blood was taboo and subversive… and everything about that made it all the more hot for this duo.
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Blood Play: Let’s Wrestle
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For other kinksters, reveling in a sense of mess and play is the point of blood fetish.
Blood or fake blood can be incorporated into endless kinky play scenarios.
One such type of play is wrestling in fake blood. Nude or mostly nude individuals wrestle in a baby pool, which is partially filled with fake blood. Similar to jello wrestling or wrestling in lube or baby oil, this is a slippery type of grappling play in which two (or more) people are getting messy, physical, and seeking a place of dominance.
Ready to get wet and messy? Give it a go!
I highly recommend having mats or padding placed under the baby pool, taking it slow, and ensuring there is a shower nearby.
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Suspended in Pleasure
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As their knife traced along my rope bound body, which dangled and was suspended from the exposed wooden beams of the play space, I found myself in the unusual act of stillness.
A flowing white robe adorned my body, a vessel that typically wriggled and squirmed in rope as I found the spots of greatest tension to lean into–but not now.
At this moment, I was still.
The sharp knife traced along my flesh, the air around me was electric and charged with erotic tension that kept me from movement. The knife punctured a blood packet that I had made with condoms and fake blood. The red streams of liquid poured from under my angelic white robe.
Bleeding through, I found release.
Even with blood that was not my own, when pushed to a physical edge the pure symbolism and release of that visually charged liquid contained an immense sense of pleasure.
Incorporating fake blood into a kink scene offers a lower risk activity that can add aspects of symbolism, ritual, and experimentation to your role play or kink scene. Just be aware of white carpets and do the necessary prep for messy play.
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Bloody Cunts
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Some of the best sexual experiences of my life happened when I was on my period or with partners who were menstruating. Something about seeing my partner’s face covered in blood between my legs as they eat my pussy like a ravenous beast is simply divine.
My body quakes with desire in the remembrance of blood stained sheets after a night of endless bloody orgasms, the visceral memory of the way my cunt opens up for a partner’s fist as it slides into my bloody cavern. Fingers stained with a beet red rouge are a huge turn on. It is a messy bold statement, and the expression of love for another when bodily fluids are present. When a partner is bleeding it is one of the most erotic splendors.
If you or your partner are individuals who menstruate, start up a conversation and see how they feel about getting messy during their cycle. If you are hoping to get messy but don’t want to fret about the sheets, try out a waterproof throw like the one offered by liberatorone offered by liberator.
Living On the Edge with Blood Play
As a form of edge play, blood play can be a lot of fun and a fascinating place to explore.
But if you are new to kink this might not be the end of the pool that you want to jump into first.
Always make sure to establish negotiations, ensure consent, and communicate. A relationship built on trust will help you explore both shallow and deeper waters together.
It’s okay to be curious about trying out blood play. Create safe containers, ask questions, do your research, and talk with other folks in the kink community who are into blood play.
Research, learn, observe, serve, and then… play.
