I lie splayed out on a medical table wearing a torn vintage slip. My eyes are closed and my body sinks heavily into the cold stainless steel table. The kind you find at the morgue.
I surrender, allowing my consciousness to leave my body in a way that almost resembles astral projection. The body lying on this table is no longer mine. It is that of the hot curvy femme dominant that looks down onto me. It is all hers, to do with as she pleases.
The young woman snaps on a latex glove and then another. She wants to make sure that I’m dead and I want to do well. I want to stay detached from this earthly vessel and allow her to poke and prod at my flesh, for her to violate my corpse that I have left behind as I hover above this sack of nearly naked flesh.
The woman with the gloves touches my body. She picks up my foot and lets it fall heavy back to the table. Then, she bends my legs up and down. She can puppeteer this dead corpse however she chooses.
She traces her fingers up and down my thighs. Her gloved fingers make their way closer to my cunt. Jesus this is difficult.
My wet pussy betrays me. As she cups her hand around my cunt I’m sure she can feel my moistness through my underwear. She slowly glides my cotton panties off my body.
Her closeness and her touch make me want to squirm and wriggle with excitement, purring like the sex kitten that I am but no, that is not the scene. I am her dead body. We are in the depths of a necro play scene and I will do a good job.
There are many misconceptions surrounding necro play, which does not actually involve any dead bodies. Instead it is one of the many forms of role play that individuals explore in the world of kink.
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What is Necro Play?
Before we begin, let’s address what exactly necro play is. In the most basic terms, necro play is a type of role play that involves at least one play partner playing dead. This can overlap into areas of medical play, fantasy play, vore, and many other fetishes.
Death is one of the greatest taboos. It is rarely talked about, often avoided at all costs, and feared amongst many. Necro play is a way to confront death, symbolically and playfully in a kinky and sensual way.
Below are just a few ways in which to explore this taboo and hauntingly hot fetish.
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Broken Dolls
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My body was stoically still, staring off into the distance. Limbs contorted, bound with rope in a rusting shopping cart in the abandoned shipyard.
I was giddy as I later looked at the photos she’d taken of my deathly pale body. All color was gone from my face but my lashes were exquisite and the delicate negligee that I wore provided a sexy contrast to the sharp edges of life that surrounded my corpse. A broken doll in all her perfection.
The broken doll aesthetic arises primarily from a core desire to see pain. If we see it, it can heal, we can hold it. It becomes tangible.
This is also true for when we embody roles and engage in kink scenes that incorporate the topic of death. Life is a constant state of death and rebirth. When we embody death we can be present with that state of being and whatever emotions may arise.
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Get Dramatic
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I am forever a theater nerd. So, of course I’ve crafted some very hot and steamy kink scenes based on my favorite Shakespearean plays including Macbeth. In this Macbeathean role play scene with my partner, I was Lady Macbeth and he had the unfortunate fate of being Banquo.
Our X-rated reenactment involved me first poisoning him–I think I used some blue fizzing hydration tablet that was served in a very ornate goblet. Once my partner fell to his fatal demise, I ravaged his body. Although I did have to chastise him a bit after our scene for grabbing my ass while I was fellating him.
Shakespeare isn’t the only literary source of sexy necro fantasies to draw inspiration from. Maybe you have a sexy Film Noir fantasy in mind… such as a dead detective and a lustful femme fatale fantasy that you need to live out loud.
If a fairytale ending is what you are after, maybe a kiss of true love will awaken the dead. If shockingly hot sex is what you are after, perhaps try out the role of Dr. Frankenstein with your experimental femme-monster. This fantasy could be an illuminating way to incorporate some light electro play with a tens unit. Or simply make your monster come to life with an electrical buzz of pleasure from the Hitachi magic wand.
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Coffins and Burials
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Some folks find the erotic and psychological edge of small spaces, like coffins, to be cathartic and arousing. Or even experimenting with the sensations of being buried.
Simple ways of experiencing a sensation such as a burial can involve tenderly and lovingly covering your partner’s body in soil, leaves, and flowers. Similar to how children like to have their bodies buried in the sand. You could lay a delicate piece of cloth over their face like a handkerchief so that their head is covered but not buried.
A low cost accessible option for a coffin is a large cardboard moving box from a packing and shipping store that is kept on the ground. A raised garden bed can also be a fine option for this type of play.
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Safe, Sane, and Consensual
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Remember that fantasy play such as burials should be negotiated in detail–and even when you’re playing dead you should have a safe word. Always prioritize safety. Creating a safe and trusted space allows both partners the freedom to surrender, connect, and fully be present in the scene.
Check in with your partner and discuss ways to give nonverbal cues as to whether the scene needs to pause or if everything is going well.
If using a coffin with a top cover, there should always be air holes, a way to communicate, and never leave the person unattended, or in a place where they could accidentally fall.
These are edgy types of play and should be engaged with a great sense of responsibility, research, and safety measures in place.
Necro Play: Putting the Fun Back in Funeral
So, no matter if you are constructing a morgue for make-out sessions in your basement with your girlfriend or just getting dirty with a backyard burial for your boo, remember to have fun! After all, necro play is about play. It’s an area where we can embrace the shadow, look openly at death as a part of life, and explore the complexity and layers of our desire.
